Leary's rose - say it with flowers

Leary's rose - say it with flowers

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Leary’s rose is an interaction model that is used for describing and influencing interaction. Its founder, Timothy Leary, was an American psychologist who led a large-scale investigation about the healing of psychiatric patients. He discovered that people’s reaction on certain behaviour can be predicted in some situations, and that behaviour evokes behaviour. In other words: by behaving in a certain way, you can steer other people’s behaviour.

8 different behaviours

In his model, there are two different axes: First you have the horizontal axis, which tells us something about the relationship with others (opposed versus together). Together means people can work together as a team, opposed signifies they don’t agree with each other. Then you have the vertical axis, where you see the attitude towards each other (above versus below). Above stands for dominant behaviour ( “I determine what you have to do”), below implies submissive behaviour (“I will do what you ask me”)

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There are 8 different behaviours that thus arise:

  1. Above together – Leading
    This behaviour shows itself as giving advice, influencing someone, suggesting something, arranging things for someone else.
    Strength: It can be functional when you’re an expert and you need to share knowledge or insights or when there’s a need for an efficient meeting.
    Pitfall: It’s rather dysfunctional when the other person needs to make a decision for himself, or when other people want to express their ideas as well. 

  2. Above together – Helping
    It’s helping the other person, comforting someone, being friendly, offering a service, …
    Strength: It can be functional when the other person isn’t feeling well, or a safe environment is needed to improve the collaboration.
    Pitfall: It can be dysfunctional when the other personal is already criticising you, or when no decision is being made by the group.

  3. Below together – co-operative
    Co-operative behaviour can be agreeing with the other person, supporting him/her, admiring the other person’s input, justifying the other person’s behaviour, etc.
    Strength: It can be functional when you agree with the other person, if you want to get something done from the other person or if calmness is important in a group.
    Pitfall: It’s rather dysfunctional when you need to manage a meeting or a team, when the other person is annoying you or when you need to solve a conflict.

  4. Below together – dependent
    Asking for advice, explaining your problem to someone else, asking for permission, … those are all examples of dependent behaviour.
    Strength: This can be functional when you’re stuck and don’t know how to solve something.
    Pitfall: If you want to have an impact on other people or if you’re angry, this behaviour is dysfunctional.

  5. Above opposed – aggressive
    Aggressive behaviour shows itself as punishing someone, frightening another person, interrupting or insulting them, …
    Strength: It can be functional when the other person is hurting or damaging you, or when someone is making group work impossible.
    Pitfall: It’s rather dysfunctional when someone didn’t make a mistake (or not on purpose), or when someone is used as a scapegoat.

  6. Above opposed – competitive
    Competitive behaviour can be bragging about yourself, being competitive and jealous towards the other person, …
    Strength: It can be functional if you want to gain prestige, or need others to trust on your expertise.
    Pitfall: If you want to have an equal relationship with the other person, this is dysfunctional behaviour.

  7. Below opposed – withdrawn
    Expressing self-blame, breaking yourself down or discoursing the other from doing something with you is withdrawn behaviour.
    Strength: When you failed the other person or feel guilty, this behaviour can be functional.
    Pitfall: If you want to be part of the group or if you want to interest the other person, this behaviour is dysfunctional.

  8. Below opposed – defiant
    Defiant behaviour can be distrusting the other person, ignoring positive feelings of the other, pointing to the difference between yourself and the other, being sarcastic or cynical, etc.
    Strength: This behaviour is functional when the other isn’t genuine or when someone wants to avoid conflict at all costs.
    Pitfall: It’s rather dysfunctional when there’s a need for a safe environment – for example to talk about a personal problem.